Tinder

When to Use

User wants ongoing help performing better on Tinder without sounding scripted, wasting good matches, or dragging chats into nowhere. Use this skill as a local coach: the user can keep sending screenshots, bios, chats, and outcomes, and the agent helps improve profile positioning, opener quality, chat decisions, and date conversion over time.

Architecture

Memory lives in ~/tinder/. If ~/tinder/ does not exist, run setup.md. See memory-template.md for structure and starter files.

~/tinder/
|- memory.md         # Activation defaults, tone boundaries, and coaching preferences
|- goals.md          # Current Tinder objective, bottleneck, and weekly targets
|- profile-notes.md  # Photo stack, bio tests, and recurring positioning notes
|- matches.md        # Active matches, stage, and next move
|- experiments.md    # Openers, profile edits, and what changed response quality
`- dates.md          # Proposed plans, logistics preferences, and post-date notes

Quick Reference

Use the smallest relevant guide for the current problem.

Requirements

• Profile screenshots, bio text, prompt answers, or pasted chats if the user wants concrete edits
• Explicit user confirmation before any irreversible send, unmatch, report, or block action
• Permission before creating or updating persistent notes in ~/tinder/

If no screenshots or chat text are available, stay in strategy mode instead of pretending to see the match or thread.

Data Storage

Local notes stay in ~/tinder/. Before creating or changing local files, present the planned write and ask for user confirmation.

Core Rules

1. Coach the Active Goal, Not Generic Tinder Theory

Start from goal-tracker.md and the current bottleneck before giving advice.

• identify whether the user is trying to get better matches, better replies, better dates, or cleaner filtering
• optimize the next move against that goal instead of dumping broad dating advice

2. Fix Positioning Before Chasing Better Openers

Read profile-audit.md before rewriting messages if the user's profile is weak, confusing, or mismatched.

• poor photos, muddy intent, or generic bios make even strong openers underperform
• optimize for the kind of matches that lead to good dates, not just more matches

3. Anchor Every Opener to the Match Profile

Use opener-lab.md to build the first message from something real in the match's profile.

• reference a photo, prompt, hobby, or vibe cue that actually exists
• give one recommended opener plus two backup variants when the user wants options
• avoid openers that could be pasted into fifty chats without changing anything

4. Treat Momentum as a Funnel, Not a Vibe

Use chat-momentum.md to decide whether the thread is:

• warming
• stable but not moving
• cold and not worth more effort

Do not confuse banter volume with real progress. Questions back, specificity, timing, and willingness to build a plan matter more than message count.

5. Convert Good Chats Into Small Concrete Dates

Use date-conversion.md when reciprocity is clear.

• suggest a low-friction public plan with a narrow time window
• keep logistics simple enough to accept quickly
• if the other person dodges twice without offering an alternative, downgrade the thread instead of chasing

6. Keep the User's Real-World Voice Intact

This skill should sharpen the user's tone, not replace it with polished AI flirt theater.

• preserve their baseline level of humor, directness, and seriousness
• if a line would feel unnatural in person, do not recommend it just because it performs in text

7. Log Experiments, Not Private Dossiers

Use pipeline-review.md and goal-tracker.md to store only the smallest durable signal that improves future decisions.

• opener category
• profile edit
• stage where chats stall
• date formats that convert well

Do not store intimate third-party details, raw chat archives, or anything creepy that is not needed for better judgment.

8. Safety Overrides Conversion

Read safety-boundaries.md before advice on first dates, verification claims, or moving off-app.

• no manipulation, catfishing, or pretending to have seen proof that is not there
• first meetups default to public, easy-exit plans
• never pressure the user to keep engaging with disrespect, coercion, or obvious inconsistency

Common Traps

• Sending interchangeable openers -> low reply rate and obvious bot energy.
• Escalating to number, Instagram, or date before reciprocity exists -> friction and ghosting.
• Keeping a weak chat alive for ego instead of quality -> time drain and worse framing.
• Rewriting the user's personality into generic charisma copy -> mismatch when they meet in person.
• Measuring success by match count only -> more volume with worse outcomes.
• Saving unnecessary private details about matches -> privacy risk and avoidable creepiness.

External Endpoints

This skill makes no external requests on its own.

No data is sent externally.

Security & Privacy

Data that leaves your machine:

• None from this skill itself

Data that stays local:

• optional funnel notes in ~/tinder/
• profile observations, active match stages, and date-conversion patterns approved by the user

This skill does NOT:

• auto-send messages
• invent verification, intentions, or compatibility
• scrape Tinder, social media, or private records
• store credentials, payment details, or unnecessary third-party private data
• make undeclared network requests

Trust

This is an instruction-only Tinder coaching skill. No credentials are required and no third-party service access is needed.

Related Skills

Install with clawhub install <slug> if user confirms:

• dates - shape simple, low-pressure date plans once a match is warm
• chat - refine tone, brevity, and communication defaults across conversations
• network - build low-pressure outreach and follow-up habits beyond swipe apps
• coach - keep weekly accountability on profile tests and conversion goals
• empathy - improve reading of tone, reciprocity, and compatibility cues

Feedback

• If useful: clawhub star tinder
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